Jeff continued our series in Proverbs by speaking about how Proverbs addresses women and beauty. The rest of book is certainly applicable to women but it is in fact addressed to men. There are however several verses in the book that speak to women; chapter 31 in particular.
To begin, placed intermittently throughout the book are several verses that speak about wives who are “quarrelsome.” They let us know that a man would rather live in the desert or on the roof than with a quarrelsome wife. Wives, you may think that constantly nagging will change your husband but the Bible is clear – it won’t. Only God can change him. The simple takeaway is this: nag less, pray more.
And then perhaps most famously, Proverbs speaks about “an excellent wife.” This can be a touchy subject but to begin, a few words about what the Bible says about husbands and wives. The Bible is clear that men are placed in an inescapable place of leadership. As Christ is the head of the church so the man is the head of the family. Jesus never abused his authority. He sacrificed everything for the sake of the church. That is how men are to lead. This means women are called to follow; even when your husband is not leading well. But understand that God is sovereign. And all marriages are arranged marriages; arranged by God for his glory, our good and our growth. Proverbs says many things about an excellent wife. She is prudent, seeks the best for her house, enjoys her work, is good at her work; she is smart and industrious; she is strong; she is generous, optimistic and kind. This is only part of the list. Needless to say, no one can ever live up to all of these things, but these are things that God values in a woman and are things to be desired but us.
Finally, Jeff focused in on this key verse, “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” It’s clear from the Bible that beauty is a very real thing. What’s also clear from culture is that beauty is something that’s arbitrary. What is beautiful today was not beautiful 20 years ago. It’s also clear that we, as fallen people, place far, far too much value on physical beauty – and it’s crushing us. Eating disorders, plastic surgeries Pornography and the objectification of women. This destroys people and it destroys relationships. All throughout the Bible God uses the lowly and the unattractive accomplish to his purposes. This culminates with Jesus who had no physical beauty whatsoever – and God used him to save the world.
Band for the week was:
- Jake Taylor – vox + guitar
- Julie Watkins – vox
- Scott Wenger – bass
- Alex Dellapenta – guitar + vox
- Ben Davis – guitar + vox
- Zack Van Hoy – drums